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changes?

Nothing really special today,
Just got diarrhoea…
Might be caused the weather…it’s been raining four couple days.

Tell me something about marriage,
Do you have any clue what actually is it?
I mean, of course I know that institution,
But can you help me describe its difference with relationship before marriage?

Once I argued a friend that said status as girlfriend to wife soon changes everything..
What? Which changes? Scale of affection?

Tell me about it…convince me!
I doubt and become apathy towards what so called marriage.

What is the value of relationship then? If it’s should be reduced by what called marriage?

Of course, in whatever kind of relationship,
Before or through marriage, [read my lips…BEFORE TOO!]
These two people should melt their interest, characters, hatreds, dislikes, tendencies, minds and thoughts…or maybe not melt, but more on…discuss it.
Without taking them for granted, more with efforts…

But tell me…
Why is it become so difficult as people step into marriage life?
Why is it more troublesome to change ourselves for the sake of our partners?
Why more complains and questions to behold the relation?

Tell me,
I become less and less convince on this so called marriage institution…

Will we be able to stop pointing our fingers on the other part?
Will we be couraged enough to take a further look on our own changes?
Is it always easier to compromise during non-marriage stage?


Comments

Natalia Tanyadji said…
Why is it become so difficult as people step into marriage life?
Why is it more troublesome to change ourselves for the sake of our partners?
Why more complains and questions to behold the relation?
simple answer: marriage life is not as easy as what people think. as we got married, and have a trouble, both of us should work on it. not only 1 person. nothing can be done if only you or your partner try to work on it.
8:45 AM
Anonymous said…
Marriage (in the ultimate) is a 100% commitment to the relationship and the willingness to make it work, considering the relationship to be more important than self. It means growing up fast in some cases, not claiming so-called rights that would actually deprive the loved one of his/her own rights, also. It is the extreme exercise of maturing and caring for others, in my opinion.

It's easy to be committed to relationships which are not around the clock, and not in the same home day in and day out. But marriage demands rising above the things that can destroy relationships. It is putting our money where our mouths are. If our mouths are dislocated, so may we be.
1:08 AM
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